Saying “No” to Something Good


It’s been said that we sometimes have to say “no” to something good in order to say “yes” to something even better.

Anytime that we say yes to something, we are essentially saying no to something else. We can’t be two places at once, so for everything we do, there are an infinite amount of things we can’t do.

I can’t go see a friend and clean my house at the same time. I can’t go on a vacation and save that vacation money for a vehicle at the same time. I can’t spend every waking hour busy and be in tip-top physical and mental health at the same time.

For every “yes,” you are also having to say “no,” even if you don’t realize it.

The problem arises when choosing between two good things. There are many times I don’t really want to say no to anything. I wish I was career Barbie, who was simultaneously an astronaut and a teacher and a veterinarian and a flight attendant and a million other things. But this isn’t Barbie’s reality, and in my reality, I have to say no to a lot of things I really enjoy.

Today the thing I said “no” to was my job. I would like to point out that this is a job I absolutely love. But, I said “no” to something good in order to say “yes” to something better. Although I would have been happy to stay in that position for the rest of my life, furthering my education was a high priority for me and would also afford me the opportunity to have more choice in how exactly I served clients. I knew that staying where I was would be good, but furthering my education would be better.

So that’s what I did. Today was my last day of work and I will be starting classes soon. I think it’s helpful for me to frame this transition in this way, because the quitting part just isn’t much fun at all. Going after something better, though? That’s something I can say “yes” to.



Why do we make the decisions that we do?

I’ve been thinking of this lately. It’s interesting what motivates change, and soon I will be experiencing a lot of it.

For starters, I quit my job. Yes, the job that I love so dearly. As it turns out, it’s easy to quit a job that sucks the life out of you (been there) but quite a bit more difficult to quit a job that you look forward to each day. I’ve been working as a therapist at a community mental health agency for nearly two years. I would be entirely content to stay in this position for the rest of my life. And, you see, that’s the problem.

Although I would love to stay in this job forever, I would not have any opportunity for advancement. I also wouldn’t have a lot of options if something changed and I needed to look elsewhere for work. The only way to advance in this career is with more education.

I’ll be attending graduate school beginning this fall. The program that I chose will allow me to go in a few different directions after graduation: back into the counseling field, into a college teaching role, or into a PhD program. I would be thrilled with any of these options.

It was a big decision for me to make, but I feel it was the right one.

Another decision I made recently is to be open to the idea of blogging again. This may seem strange since I’ll be entering into a very intensive educational program in less than a month. What I’m considering, though, is blogging with a bit of a different end goal. Before, I was hoping to improve the lives of those in my audience. Now, I’d like to use this blog to improve my own life, and maybe it’ll improve yours in the process. I enjoy blogging, but trying to crank out content on a regular schedule to appease the masses is exhausting. Blogging is an outlet for me because I love writing and thinking about ideas. If I’m no longer doing that, it’s not helpful for anyone. Plus, I want this to be true to me and not some sort of manufactured clickbait.

So, yes, I hope to begin blogging more again. It’s probably going to look a little different than it did before. It may not be consistently posted on the same time on the same day. With my schooling starting up, there may be gaps with nothing posted because my nose is in a book. It may not even interest you, and that’s fine. I’m shifting my mindset to think of it as self-expression. You’re welcome to come along for the ride!

Taking a Break

After much consideration, I’ve decided to take a break from this blog for some time. 

Right now I’m not sure when or if I will be returning. I love writing, but I don’t know if blogging is the right path for me. I have so many vastly different interests, and I’d like to free up some time to pursue them and to write more creatively or just for myself as a hobby. 

This blog has been so much fun. I sincerely thank each and every one of you, my readers, for being so supportive and awesome. It means so much to me. 

– Megan

Roasted Shrimp and Broccoli

For a meal to make it onto my weeknight meal plan regularly, I have pretty high standards.

It can’t take too long. Preferrably less than 30 minutes, start-to-finish.

It also needs to be nutritious. If it’s something we’re going to eat on a regular basis, it needs to be free from “garbage” (you know, artificial stuff and highly processed ingredients). I don’t eat 100% clean all of the time, but for something to be eaten regularly, it needs to be clean.

In an ideal world, it would create very few dishes. I’ve never met someone who enjoys weeknight dishes.

Lastly, it needs to be delicious. If knowing that a certain recipe is for dinner tempts me to hit up a drive through, it’s not delicious enough to make the cut. We basically have to love it.

This recipe hits all of these requirements and more. It’s one of our very favorite weeknight dinners, and it’s extremely quick and easy, plus packed full of good-for-you nutrients and heart-healthy fats. It requires just a cutting board, a bowl, and a pan. Best of all, it is SO GOOD! If you’ve ever had broccoli somewhere and wondered how they got a simple side of broccoli to taste amazing, it might have been this method.

It’s great served with a side of rice or quinoa, and I imagine indulging with a side of pasta or garlic bread might not be too bad either. I hope you love it as much as we do!



Roasted Shrimp and Broccoli

Adapted from TheWednesdayChef.com

Serves 4 (or 2 if you’re hungry)


2 pounds broccoli, cut into bite-size florets

4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil, divided

1 teaspoon cumin

1.5 teaspoon Kosher salt

1 teaspoon black pepper

1/8 teaspoon chili powder

1 pound raw shrimp, peeled and deveined (tails can be on or off)

zest of one lemon

lemon wedges for serving


Preheat oven to 425 degrees Fahrenheit (220 degrees Celsius). Toss broccoli with 2 tablespoons of oil, cumin, 1 teaspoon salt, 1/2 teaspoon pepper, and chili powder. Spread in a single layer in a shallow roasting pan and roast for 10 minutes. While it’s roasting, combine shrimp, 2 tablespoons of oil, lemon zest, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and 1/2 teaspoon pepper. After the broccoli has roasted for 10 minutes, add the shrimp to the pan, stir to make sure it’s in a single, even layer, and roast for an additional 10 minutes (broccoli gets a total of 20 minutes an shrimp gets 10). Serve with lemon wedges to squeeze on top. Enjoy!


Get the printable recipe here.


What are your favorite healthy weeknight dinners?


You may also like:

In Defense of Food: An Eater’s Manifesto, a book by Michael Pollan

My Experience With Meal Prepping

What Experts Say You Should be Eating


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Arizona Vacation 2017



Arizona holds so many special memories for us. It is where my husband and I first began to build our lives together after we got married, where I graduated from college, and the home of so many good times and so much growth.



Although we’ve moved back to the area where we grew up in the Midwest, Arizona has such a nostalgic feeling.


The opportunity arose to visit our friends before they move out of Arizona as well, and we jumped on it. It was a fairly quick and spontaneous decision, but we booked the flight and didn’t look back.


The day after we flew in, we visited Sedona. I could try to describe it, but you really just need to go. It gives you that same frightening-but-breathtaking feeling that you get when you look out at the open ocean.



I’m growing to like that feeling. It gives you a sense of humility at how small you really are, yet gratitude that God chose to give you life in a universe full of such amazing things.


We had such a fun time hiking and even just driving with this beautiful landscape around us.


Above all, it was great to see our friends. Life takes us in different directions and I’m notoriously bad at staying in touch (working on it!), but even so, when we get back together the relationship feels like we’ve never left. I’m thankful for these and other great people in my life.



I also appreciated the 90 degree weather when there was a snowstorm happening back home. Gratefulness comes in all sorts of forms!


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