Put Your Phone Down

Put Down Your Phone

We, as a society, have got to put our phones down.

I recently went out on a date and was sitting with my back facing the rest of the restaurant. Out of the corner of my eye, I could see a family at a table in which every member of the family was on their phone or tablet. Yes, that’s right, mom, dad, and a couple kids were eating “together” yet were 100% disconnected from reality in their own worlds apart from one another.

I pointed this out to my husband, and he said it wasn’t just that table. I turned around and was shocked to see many, many families being robbed of quality time because their eyes were glued to a screen.

I can’t say I’m completely innocent of this crime, either (although I’ve been working to mindfully be present with those around me).

How did this happen to our culture?

Regardless of how this happened, we know that having strong relationships is a key to long-term happiness. Relationships are also probably one of your highest priorities, so it’s important to be mindful of what could be sabotaging those relationships.

A study from the University of Essex found that simply having your phone on the table, even without checking it, hurts your connection with the very person you’re trying to spend time with.

It’s easy to get into the habit of casually checking your phone, but it just isn’t worth it. Spend time relaxing on your phone, but make sure that you’re also spending quality, phone-free time with the people in your life who matter most.

What do you think about using phones while spending time with friends or family? Join the discussion in the comments section below!


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  1. I agree. I’m wanting to stay off my phone more in general, not just when I’m with other people. Compulsive phone checking disconnects me from life in general and keeps me in a state of chronic over-stimulation. I used to have to keep myself company and entertain myself with my thoughts when I was standing in lines, or eating a meal alone, or waiting for a meeting to start. Now I itch to look at my phone. I’m thinking about starting a weekly No Phone day at least once a week to try to get some of my mind back!


  2. My son said that when he was in the Marine Corps and he and his buddies would go out for dinner, they’d stack the phones on the table and whoever touched their phone during their time together, paid for everyone’s dinner!!!! He said it really worked!!! I think that is a great idea! 🙂


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