Magazines. Pinterest. That guy at the gym. Even blogs. Sometimes we get so much thrown at us which makes it seem as though everyone else has it all together. This is not only false, it’s also dangerous thinking. How can you thrive if you feel like your life is a disaster compared to everyone else?
I remember as a kid I felt like adults really knew their stuff. I mean, these people knew how to file taxes! These people knew how to change diapers and buy groceries and run governments! To be completely honest, there was a point in time when I actually believed my dad knew everything and that my mom had never done anything wrong. You see, all these misconceptions about adults seem hilarious now that I realize how fallible we as humans really are. We’re a pretty messed up bunch. So why is it not hilarious when we as adults think that other adults have it all together?
We tend to think that everyone else has a “magazine life.” You know, a life where they have each and every section found in a magazine figured out. Fitness, organizing, cooking, careers, personal development, relationships, beauty, interior decorating, faith, confidence, parenting, DIY-ing, gardening, housekeeping, money management, and the list goes on and on. I’m going to let you in on a little secret: nobody has a magazine life. It doesn’t exist.
The more I work with people, the more I find it to be true. The gorgeous mom-of-three who looks perfect but secretly feels like a failure. The man who is highly respected in his community but has a crumbling family. You always hear, “nobody’s perfect,” but do you really believe it?
We’re all in this jumbled, confusing mess of life together. We can work towards bettering each of our “magazine sections,” but we will only find ourselves disappointed if we really believe that everyone else, somehow, has it all together while we don’t.
If you are looking to better yourself, you’re in the right place at TheThrivingSelf.com. I think a good first step, though, is to recognize that our lives will never be perfect and appreciate the journey itself. After all, you definitely don’t need to have it all together in order to have a wonderful life that you love!